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Blush Novelties Noje W3 Review

[Header Image Description: The Noje W3, a palm-sized wand vibrator with a curved light green handle and a white head, sitting in front of a magnetic wooden nativity scene. Surrounding the vibrator are animals, shepherds, the three kings, and the angels.]

So, I come back to blogging after a few months, and suddenly every toy I review is my new favourite! First the NS Novelties Wave, and now the Noje W3! What’s going on? Where have my standards gone? Have I lost my touch?

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Body Confidence From Bed: Nurturing Your Disabled Sexuality

[Header Image Description: A photo of me, Finn, a pale-skinned non-binary Australian Aboriginal person. My shoulder-length blonde hair is pulled up in a topknot on my head. I am wearing a white t-shirt and red headphones, and I am drinking tea from a large blue mug. I am sitting in a queen sized bed with a dark wood headboard, beige sheets and pillow cases, and a light blue doona cover. The wall behind me is also blue.]

Being disabled can be gross. Without proper aids like shower chairs and support bars, I shower – at most – once a week. With proper aids, that bumps up to about three times a week. You don’t notice until you can’t do it anymore, but showering and feeling clean are often very important for your self-esteem and body confidence. When you spend a lot of time at home, the state of your living space also impacts on your mental state. If you’re intermittently bedbound like I am, your bed can not only get dirty very quickly, but it can also feel stultifying, or even imprisoning. It becomes a representation of the pain or limitations you experience because of your disability, and can stop feeling like a space you want to be in, let alone a space you feel sexy in. This year, I found myself single for the first time in about six years, and I couldn’t rely on the external validation of a partner, so I had to generate a lot of my own sensual feelings. Being disabled can be isolating, depressing, and difficult, but you should be able to find moments where you feel cute, sexy, and confident, so here are some tips.

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Lovehoney Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator Review

[Header Image Description: The Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator, a purple vibrator sitting on a light wood floor, in front of a light blue textured plaster wall. The vibrator has a bulbous head, followed by a deep curve, then a thicker handle portion. The handle portion has a slight curve as well.]

I bought a lot of my first sex toys from Lovehoney – the Doxy Wand, and the Feeldoe, for example. I still buy my lube from Lovehoney, and I continue to find real showstopper toys in their broad collection. Lovehoney is as much of a part in my sex toy experience as Max Black, but a blindspot in my knowledge was Lovehoney’s own range of sex toys. Thanks to the wonderful team at Lovehoney, I’ve been able to fill in some of that gap, because I’ve been sent the Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator in exchange for a review.

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Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina Review

[Header Image Description: The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina, a thin, semi-realistic, turquoise blue dildo, with light vein detailing, small balls, and a suction cup, sitting against a blue and white striped couch.]

The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina makes a really good first impression. It’s a lovely turquoise, the silicone is on the silkier side, with just a bit of grab, and the design is full of fun little details. I’m ridiculously enamoured with the dip at the head (which my nurse friend tells me is called the “urethral meatus” on a penis) and I’m always finding new vein-like ridges. The Reina has stylised balls, which I appreciate, because I’ve recently developed a fascination with the real-life counterparts. Another plus is that the Reina is a very good price, especially for a body-safe silicone dildo. Vibrant (a store that is unfortunately no longer with us!) sent me this dildo in exchange for an honest review, and had put it in their “First Toys” list, and I wholeheartedly agree with that decision. I feel like I’ve seen dildos shaped like this made of jelly rubber and TPR, particularly in “beginner’s” sets. It’s great to see a familiar design made of a material that isn’t going to give you chemical burns or a bacterial infection, especially at a comparable price.

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Self Love After A Sex Injury

[Header Image Description: A torso of a dark-skinned person in a white shirt, with bandages wrapped around their wrist. They are giving a thumbs up.]

People do stupid things for sex, myself included. With joints that are as loose as mine, I have to listen to my body so that I don’t cause myself damage. The means that when I am riding my partner, like I was one Monday in September, and I start to feel my hip sliding out of its socket, I should switch positions. Luckily, I was smart enough to do that, at least. When I was on my back and my partner was fucking me off the bed, and I could feel something off with my hip again, I should have shifted positions until it felt better. You’ve probably guessed already that I didn’t do that, and once I went to get out of bed after we were finished, I couldn’t move my left leg. My hip was dislocated to the extent that my partner and I could see the dent in my side where the bone should have been sitting. My legs were entirely different lengths, and the shape of my femur was visible in very much the wrong place. I was laughing, giggly like I always am after sex, but it was actually pretty frightening. Even though dislocations are more frequent for me than your average person, they’re still serious, not to mention painful. My partner helped me reduce the dislocation and I was able to hobble about after a few minutes’ rest, but I was more affected than I initially thought.

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