Musings

2018 Run Down

[Header Image Description: A close-up of a crystal Christmas star with a small silver tag reading “2018”.]

What a turnaround this post is from last year’s end of year wrap up! I’ve had a great 2018, actually, both in my vanilla life and my blogging life. I started a really good relationship in June, I’ve got a great new therapist, and I’ve been doing well academically. As far as my blog, I’ve celebrated my two year blog anniversary, received my first ever products to review, and used my blog posts to process a lot of new emotions I’ve been experiencing due to my deteriorating physical health.

I’ve also tweaked the way this post is structured, partially because what I value about blogging has shifted, and because I want to look into the oncoming year in more ways than just what toys I want to purchase or review. Lists are in alphabetical order or post date order, rather than order of importance.

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In the top drawer, Vibrator

Blush Novelties Noje W3 Review

[Header Image Description: The Noje W3, a palm-sized wand vibrator with a curved light green handle and a white head, sitting in front of a magnetic wooden nativity scene. Surrounding the vibrator are animals, shepherds, the three kings, and the angels.]

So, I come back to blogging after a few months, and suddenly every toy I review is my new favourite! First the NS Novelties Wave, and now the Noje W3! What’s going on? Where have my standards gone? Have I lost my touch?

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Musings

Body Confidence From Bed: Nurturing Your Disabled Sexuality

[Header Image Description: A photo of me, Finn, a pale-skinned non-binary Australian Aboriginal person. My shoulder-length blonde hair is pulled up in a topknot on my head. I am wearing a white t-shirt and red headphones, and I am drinking tea from a large blue mug. I am sitting in a queen sized bed with a dark wood headboard, beige sheets and pillow cases, and a light blue doona cover. The wall behind me is also blue.]

Being disabled can be gross. Without proper aids like shower chairs and support bars, I shower – at most – once a week. With proper aids, that bumps up to about three times a week. You don’t notice until you can’t do it anymore, but showering and feeling clean are often very important for your self-esteem and body confidence. When you spend a lot of time at home, the state of your living space also impacts on your mental state. If you’re intermittently bedbound like I am, your bed can not only get dirty very quickly, but it can also feel stultifying, or even imprisoning. It becomes a representation of the pain or limitations you experience because of your disability, and can stop feeling like a space you want to be in, let alone a space you feel sexy in. This year, I found myself single for the first time in about six years, and I couldn’t rely on the external validation of a partner, so I had to generate a lot of my own sensual feelings. Being disabled can be isolating, depressing, and difficult, but you should be able to find moments where you feel cute, sexy, and confident, so here are some tips.

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Lovehoney Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator Review

[Header Image Description: The Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator, a purple vibrator sitting on a light wood floor, in front of a light blue textured plaster wall. The vibrator has a bulbous head, followed by a deep curve, then a thicker handle portion. The handle portion has a slight curve as well.]

I bought a lot of my first sex toys from Lovehoney – the Doxy Wand, and the Feeldoe, for example. I still buy my lube from Lovehoney, and I continue to find real showstopper toys in their broad collection. Lovehoney is as much of a part in my sex toy experience as Max Black, but a blindspot in my knowledge was Lovehoney’s own range of sex toys. Thanks to the wonderful team at Lovehoney, I’ve been able to fill in some of that gap, because I’ve been sent the Desire Luxury Curved G-Spot Vibrator in exchange for a review.

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Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina Review

[Header Image Description: The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina, a thin, semi-realistic, turquoise blue dildo, with light vein detailing, small balls, and a suction cup, sitting against a blue and white striped couch.]

The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina makes a really good first impression. It’s a lovely turquoise, the silicone is on the silkier side, with just a bit of grab, and the design is full of fun little details. I’m ridiculously enamoured with the dip at the head (which my nurse friend tells me is called the “urethral meatus” on a penis) and I’m always finding new vein-like ridges. The Reina has stylised balls, which I appreciate, because I’ve recently developed a fascination with the real-life counterparts. Another plus is that the Reina is a very good price, especially for a body-safe silicone dildo. Vibrant (a store that is unfortunately no longer with us!) sent me this dildo in exchange for an honest review, and had put it in their “First Toys” list, and I wholeheartedly agree with that decision. I feel like I’ve seen dildos shaped like this made of jelly rubber and TPR, particularly in “beginner’s” sets. It’s great to see a familiar design made of a material that isn’t going to give you chemical burns or a bacterial infection, especially at a comparable price.

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