In the top drawer, Vibrator

Hot Octopuss DiGiT

[Header Image Description: The Hot Octopuss DiGiT, a black finger vibrator with a bulbous silicone body, and a rosy plastic base. The side of the vibrator has “Hot Octopuss” written in raised text and two small oval speed buttons. A plastic figure-eight style finger loop with the Hot Octopuss crown logo on it connects to the base. The vibrator sits on a green leather table with intricate gold borders.]

Finger vibrators, like rabbits, are another candidate ripe for image rehabilitation in the sex toy sphere. I know when I think “finger vibe” my mind automatically goes to the cheap single-use vibrator rings you can buy from rusty condom machines. A few companies (a sizeable handful, if you will) have been releasing revamped finger vibes made with body safe materials and decent motors. Hot Octopuss reached out to me to review the DiGiT, and as a person with grip and dexterity issues, my interest was definitely piqued.

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Misc, Vibrator

Vibease Esthesia: With The App

This review will be split up into two posts, to address the function of the Esthesia with and without the app. The link to the companion review will be linked at the end of this post.

[Header Image Description: The Vibease App playing The Storm by Graces_Grove. The cover art shows two silhouettes in a tent, with dark clouds overhead.]

The Esthesia’s manual controls let me down, but using the Esthesia with the app is a whole different story. The functionality is greatly increased and I feel like I’m using a truly unique vibrator. It isn’t perfect, but I think the app fixes a lot of the issues I outlined in the previous review.

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Musings

Coming Out 3.0: I’m??? Lesbiab??

[Header Image Description: A picture of Marge from The Simpsons saying “Just because you’re a lesbian, it doesn’t make you less of a bein’.”]

A note about terminology: In this personal essay, I use the term “women” to include all women, cis and trans, as well as nonbinary people who consider themselves connected to womanhood.

On the 23rd of June, I quietly, slowly started changing all my social media profiles from “bisexual” to “dysphoric nonbinary lesbian”. This was a realisation months in the making, and it wasn’t an easy one. For a long time, being bisexual has been a core part of my identity. Many of my friends are bisexual, and I’ve always felt really accepted by the bisexual community. I loved being bisexual, but I started to realise that maybe I could be just as happy, if not happier, as a lesbian.

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Musings

Body Confidence From Bed: Nurturing Your Disabled Sexuality

[Header Image Description: A photo of me, Finn, a pale-skinned non-binary Australian Aboriginal person. My shoulder-length blonde hair is pulled up in a topknot on my head. I am wearing a white t-shirt and red headphones, and I am drinking tea from a large blue mug. I am sitting in a queen sized bed with a dark wood headboard, beige sheets and pillow cases, and a light blue doona cover. The wall behind me is also blue.]

Being disabled can be gross. Without proper aids like shower chairs and support bars, I shower – at most – once a week. With proper aids, that bumps up to about three times a week. You don’t notice until you can’t do it anymore, but showering and feeling clean are often very important for your self-esteem and body confidence. When you spend a lot of time at home, the state of your living space also impacts on your mental state. If you’re intermittently bedbound like I am, your bed can not only get dirty very quickly, but it can also feel stultifying, or even imprisoning. It becomes a representation of the pain or limitations you experience because of your disability, and can stop feeling like a space you want to be in, let alone a space you feel sexy in. This year, I found myself single for the first time in about six years, and I couldn’t rely on the external validation of a partner, so I had to generate a lot of my own sensual feelings. Being disabled can be isolating, depressing, and difficult, but you should be able to find moments where you feel cute, sexy, and confident, so here are some tips.

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Dildo

Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina Review

[Header Image Description: The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina, a thin, semi-realistic, turquoise blue dildo, with light vein detailing, small balls, and a suction cup, sitting against a blue and white striped couch.]

Vibrant (a store that is unfortunately no longer with us!) sent me The Blush Novelties Temptasia Reina in exchange for an honest review, and had put it in their “First Toys” list, and I wholeheartedly agree with that decision. I feel like I’ve seen dildos shaped like this made of jelly rubber and TPR, particularly in “beginner’s” sets. It’s great to see a familiar design made of a material that isn’t going to give you chemical burns or a bacterial infection, especially at a comparable price.

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