Dildo

Blush Novelties Real Nude Rollo Review

[Header Image Description: The Blush Novelties Real Nude Rollo, a navy blue semi-realistic dildo, lying on a burgundy scarf with white flowers.]

I’ve had my eyes on the Blush Novelties Real Nude line for years, and I’m so excited that Betty’s Toy Box sent me the Blush Novelties Real Nude Rollo in exchange for an honest review! Blush Novelties has been producing some really great products over the past few years, and I’ve been lucky enough to review a few already. But the most exciting thing Blush is doing, in my opinion, is producing a whole range of affordable, body-safe, dual-density dildos. I’m a sucker for squish, and dual-density dildos are my favourite type. Dual-density dildos are great for gender affirmation, easily overwhelmed vaginas, and strap-on sex, and I had to know how the Real Nude line stood up to other dildos.

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Musings

Coming Out 3.0: I’m??? Lesbiab??

[Header Image Description: A picture of Marge from The Simpsons saying “Just because you’re a lesbian, it doesn’t make you less of a bein’.”]

A note about terminology: In this personal essay, I use the term “women” to include all women, cis and trans, as well as nonbinary people who consider themselves connected to womanhood.

On the 23rd of June, I quietly, slowly started changing all my social media profiles from “bisexual” to “dysphoric nonbinary lesbian”. This was a realisation months in the making, and it wasn’t an easy one. For a long time, being bisexual has been a core part of my identity. Many of my friends are bisexual, and I’ve always felt really accepted by the bisexual community. I loved being bisexual, but I started to realise that maybe I could be just as happy, if not happier, as a lesbian.

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Dildo, In the top drawer

NS Novelties Wave Review

[Image Description: A selfie of me, a light-skinned aboriginal person, wearing a grey t-shirt with a design of two interlocking Mars signs and a banner that reads “Gay Punk Heart”, and rainbow suspenders. I am holding the NS Novelties Wave, a rainbow dildo that is in a wave shape with a bulbous head. The dildo is suctioned onto a green acrylic paddle.]

I have to make a confession: I mostly bought this dildo because it looked nice. There’s been a veritable explosion of rainbow and other pride flag-themed toys recently, and I really wanted one to display in my new dildo closet. The NS Novelties Pride range have been the most accessible rainbow dildos in Australia for a while (but now we have the Geeky Sex Toys pride flag insertables!) but the realistic ones run a bit bigger than I am usually comfortable with. The Waves dildos are a much more manageable size and a more appealing shape for my g-spotting preferences. I thought that the Wave would be something I could suggest as a first dildo – it’s body-safe, easy to clean, anal safe and strap-on compatible, reasonably priced, easy to buy in Australia, and is visually appealing on top of all of that – but the Wave has actually become one of my favourite dildos. Continue reading “NS Novelties Wave Review”

Book

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Strap On Sex & The Strap On Book

[Header Image Description: The Strap On Book, which has a black cover with a bright pink silhouette of a back an butt cheeks, next to the Tantus Feeldoe, a peach toned double dildo with realistic veining, and a black Aslan Leather Jaguar Harness.]

For me, strap on sex is quite intuitive. I like to think that I know the vagina quite well, and my partners without one of those have approached the butt with equal prowess. I know what lubes to use, how to buy a body-safe dildo, and what harnesses are good for what purpose. For me, it seemed simple: good quads, good lube, and good communication. Even so, I thought there was more to know, so I bought The Ultimate Guide to Strap On Sex by Karlyn Lotney and The Strap On Book by A.H. Dion. I got The Ultimate Guide for AUD 39 (~USD 29) and The Strap On Book for AUD 25 (~USD 19) from Max BlackThe Ultimate Guide is 50 pages longer but both books cover the same basic content. To me, it feels like The Ultimate Guide has a slight focus on (cisgender) women in lesbian relationships, whereas The Strap On Book seems to be directed at (cisgender) heterosexual women pegging their (cisgender) male partners. Continue reading “Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Strap On Sex & The Strap On Book”

Dildo, In the top drawer

New York Toy Collective Shilo Review

[Header Image Description: A peach toned New York Toy Collective Shilo, which is lying on floorboards.]

Shipping is the bane of my Australian existence. I hate the waiting, I hate the “will it even get here” stress, and I hate the price. But, the fact is, my local sex shop is not omnipotent, and they don’t stock every sex toy I could possibly want, so shipping costs are a necessary evil. It added almost a third of the price to the New York Toy Collective Shilo, leading me to believe that I would never own it. That was, until I found the Slinky Minx. An Australian store! That stocked NYTC! I was in heaven. (Edit 28/09/18: The Slinky Minx have sadly closed down since this review was published!)

Why was I so anxious to own the Shilo? Well, the Shilo seems to be the best pack-and-play dildo on the market. It has an inner posable core that makes it much more flexible than other pack-and-play dildos, avoiding the awkward half-boner that I’ve seen with dildos like the Tantus Pack-and-Plays. NYTC has enticing videos of people wearing their toys with hardly any bulge at all. The thought of wearing a dildo out for the whole day and being able to head home and just dive straight into sex is a luxury I never thought I’d have, but now it’s entirely possible. Continue reading “New York Toy Collective Shilo Review”