Blush Novelties Noje W3 Review

[Header Image Description: The Noje W3, a palm-sized wand vibrator with a curved light green handle and a white head, sitting in front of a magnetic wooden nativity scene. Surrounding the vibrator are animals, shepherds, the three kings, and the angels.]

So, I come back to blogging after a few months, and suddenly every toy I review is my new favourite! First the NS Novelties Wave, and now the Noje W3! What’s going on? Where have my standards gone? Have I lost my touch?

Body Confidence From Bed: Nurturing Your Disabled Sexuality

[Header Image Description: A photo of me, Finn, a pale-skinned non-binary Australian Aboriginal person. My shoulder-length blonde hair is pulled up in a topknot on my head. I am wearing a white t-shirt and red headphones, and I am drinking tea from a large blue mug. I am sitting in a queen sized bed with a dark wood headboard, beige sheets and pillow cases, and a light blue doona cover. The wall behind me is also blue.]

Being disabled can be gross. Without proper aids like shower chairs and support bars, I shower – at most – once a week. With proper aids, that bumps up to about three times a week. You don’t notice until you can’t do it anymore, but showering and feeling clean are often very important for your self-esteem and body confidence. When you spend a lot of time at home, the state of your living space also impacts on your mental state. If you’re intermittently bedbound like I am, your bed can not only get dirty very quickly, but it can also feel stultifying, or even imprisoning. It becomes a representation of the pain or limitations you experience because of your disability, and can stop feeling like a space you want to be in, let alone a space you feel sexy in. This year, I found myself single for the first time in about six years, and I couldn’t rely on the external validation of a partner, so I had to generate a lot of my own sensual feelings. Being disabled can be isolating, depressing, and difficult, but you should be able to find moments where you feel cute, sexy, and confident, so here are some tips.

Self Love After A Sex Injury

[Header Image Description: A torso of a dark-skinned person in a white shirt, with bandages wrapped around their wrist. They are giving a thumbs up.]

People do stupid things for sex, myself included. With joints that are as loose as mine, I have to listen to my body so that I don’t cause myself damage. The means that when I am riding my partner, like I was one Monday in September, and I start to feel my hip sliding out of its socket, I should switch positions. Luckily, I was smart enough to do that, at least. When I was on my back and my partner was fucking me off the bed, and I could feel something off with my hip again, I should have shifted positions until it felt better. You’ve probably guessed already that I didn’t do that, and once I went to get out of bed after we were finished, I couldn’t move my left leg. My hip was dislocated to the extent that my partner and I could see the dent in my side where the bone should have been sitting. My legs were entirely different lengths, and the shape of my femur was visible in very much the wrong place. I was laughing, giggly like I always am after sex, but it was actually pretty frightening. Even though dislocations are more frequent for me than your average person, they’re still serious, not to mention painful. My partner helped me reduce the dislocation and I was able to hobble about after a few minutes’ rest, but I was more affected than I initially thought.

Can You Handle It? Tantus Handles Review

[Header Image Description: The Tantus Goddess Handle, Anaconda Handle, Echo Handle, and G-Force Handle, sitting in a clear crystal vase, on a granite bench top. A cream fridge, white cabinets, and wooden floorboards are visible in the background.]

Being physically disabled frequently means existing in a world that wasn’t designed with you in mind. Out of necessity, a lot of disabled people need to be incredibly innovative, and our sex lives are not exempt from this. I’ve recently become a proponent of the paddle method, which has made masturbation so much easier. I’ve held vibes in ways they aren’t meant to be held, and found new positions that keeps my joints happy during partnered sex. However, every once in a while, there’s a product which has disabled people in mind. In this instance, I’m talking about the Tantus handles. I’ve seen them on plenty of lists about sex toys for people with physical disabilities but I haven’t seen many reviews specifically about the accessibility of these dildos. Tantus kindly sent me the whole handled range in exchange for a review.

Body-Safe Toy Materials

[Header Image Description: A photo of me, Finn, a pale-skinned indigenous non-binary person with straight blond hair past my shoulders. I am looking quizzically into the distance, holding a purple dildo and a pink bottle of Sliquid Sassy lube. I am wearing a shirt that says “This is my selfie top”.]

I talk a lot about body-safe toys on this blog, but I have never explained what I mean in my own words. Maybe you’ve just walked into a brick-and-mortar store and found a wall of products that you’ve never heard of before – how do you make sure that your next purchase won’t harm you? Hopefully this guide will help you work that out.